We all know what exhaustion feels like. When we’ve reached our maximum capacity and are pushed beyond it. As parents we are forced to go beyond it all too often.
Parenting is ripe with exhaustion at all stages. Even though I don’t have adult children, I have been assured that the sleepless nights don’t end once a child grows up and leaves the home.
Think for a moment about children.
Babies can be sweet, cuddly, and precious; they can also be back-arching demanding cryers.
Children are inquisitive, kind, and helpful, while also being whiny, brattish, and throwing tantrums.
You may be asking, What’s the cure to this parental exhaustion?
I’m glad you asked.
NOTHING. Suck it up and tough it out!
I would like to point out that in life, there are seasons that come and go that are exhausting. There’s no specific pill I can give you that will thwart the entrance to the halls of exhaustion.
However, I will show you the source of strength. The Psalms often help my weary heart as an exhausted parent. David cries out to God in Psalm 28, and this reminds us to do the same. God uses the Psalms to help our hearts know how to talk to Him. To honestly cry out when you are at your wits’ end.
Psalm 22 verse 7 says,
“Yahweh is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped.”
Turn to God right now, be helped. I pray God’s word would be a balm for your exhaustion.
Usually after I cry out to God, He brings to mind just how much a gift my children are to Lacey and I.
Children are a great way God works on our hearts. We can be critical, foolish, and self-centered. God uses children to draw us to himself, simply because we are not capable of raising our children with what they need without God present in our lives.
Pray for the next generation. Pray for your future children, children, or grandchildren. Most importantly, pray for their hearts.
Christina Fox reminds us,
“While asking for healthy bodies and good behavior certainly makes my life easier, it doesn’t address my children’s most serious and deadly ailment: their heart"
The most important prayer I can pray for them is that they would see their sin and need for you.
(Read more of Christina’s prayer here- https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/the-most-important-prayer-for-our-kids)
Depend on our Father, who never gets exhausted. Commune with Him. He will satisfy you.
We Are Calvary
To say that we live in times of rapid change may be the very height of understatement. Our culture, and its norms, is changing at an unprecedented rate, making it increasingly challenging for the church to remain relevant—and faithful—in proclaiming the good news of the kingdom of God, in a way that will bring about the expansion of that kingdom.
This past Sunday we (finally) made it out of the weighty, dark, somber, and serious writings of the Prophets of the Exile, and stepped into the Return from Exile of the people of God. Our first look into this aspect of the redemptive drama comes via three courageous servants of Yahweh—Zerrubabel, Ezra, and Nehemiah. There story is found in the book of Ezra-Nehemiah (although our English Bibles separate them, through the centuries the Jewish people have always treated them as one book; so we will too.)
Especially When You Don't Feel Like It
Sunday is just about my favorite day of the week (“just about”…because my day off each week, our family’s Sabbath Saturday, is a tie or really close second). I love getting up that morning, making my smoothie, sitting in my favorite chair in our fireplace room, and pulling my Bible onto my lap. I relish the time spent listening to my Father speak, and I delight in those moments spent talking with him about the morning’s ministry, the people in our gathering that I hope he will transform, as well as the eleven other pastors (and their congregations) on whom I pray his blessing every Sunday.
This past Sunday we completed our journey through the weighty, dark, somber, and serious writings of the Prophets of the Exile, focusing our study on Ezekiel. We discovered in Ezekiel a book filled with dark visions and confrontational language. And one of the visions (probably the central, controlling metaphor of the book) Ezekiel presents is Israel as a beautiful bride who turns against her bridegroom, God, and breaks all the stipulations of her covenant.
Day Thirty: Vistas of Wisdom
I am very near the end of this little writing experiment called “31 Proverbs.” While I’m unsure how helpful it has been to how ever many have read it, I know that the process of sitting down six days each week to read, ponder, and then ponder some more by plunking on a keyboard has helped me grow in my understanding of wisdom.
Day Thirty-Two: A Mother's Wisdom (part two)
Yesterday, we heard from what was likely King Solomon’s mother imparting worthy words of wisdom in the area of leadership. For the sayings of wisdom we find here are those “which his mother taught him” (Proverbs 31:1). And she now turns her attention to the search for a woman of virtue and noble character, suitable to be a wife and mother.
Day Twenty-Nine: Please—Quietly Hold Your Tongue
Anger. noun. “a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.” (New Oxford American Dictionary) As I entered day twenty-nine of Proverbs this morning, and came to 29:11, it struck me that this book has quite a bit to say about anger, strife, wrath, quarreling, fights, and rage. It is a theme that Solomon keeps coming back to, probably because he knows that it is a theme woven through humanity and history. Sometimes the best way to see a theme is to pull on that string so all the wisdom he has offered comes together for our observation. The accumulation helps us feel the weight of it.