My Claim to Fame
When I was fourteen I was on a connecting flight headed to LA and happened to meet Larry King (the longtime CNN talkshow host). Ok, so perhaps this isn’t so much a claim to fame as it is a claim to connect with someone who is famous. Perhaps I should call this my vicarious claim to fame.
I’ve always found Larry King fascinating because of his detached inquisitiveness. He would ask really hard-hitting questions, but seemed emotionally disengaged with those he was interviewing. It often felt painfully so. Perhaps I’m being too hard on Larry considering how invaluable seconds are in television interviews. Still, I’ve always felt for the interviewee. Can’t they at least hear a few words of sympathy or receive a nod of affirmation? People want to feel emotionally connected even if it’s an interview, right?
The Universal Longing to Connect
There is an ongoing (75 years!) Harvard research project that studied the life of 268 Harvard undergraduate men. These men came from all walks of life. There have been many who have headed up this project over the longevity of its undertaking. I would like to quote the latest in charge. He says something quite profound regarding human relationships. "Let me lay out 70 years of evidence that our relationships with other people matter, and matter more than anything else in the world," writes Vaillant in a 2009 Positive Psychology News article." (Harvard's 75-Year Study Reveals The Secret To Living A Happy Life. And Here It Is.)
Don’t gloss over that too quickly. The findings from this study are clear. What makes people happy and satisfied in life are deep, meaningful, relational connections with others. This is the case despite tragic external circumstances like cancer or poverty. I’m going to go so far as to say that the key to happiness is connection. It’s not a key, but the key.
Consider Jesus’ words in John 17:3,
“And this is eternal life, that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent.”
For those who have worried that heaven will be a long, boring, isolated ride atop a cloud you need to consider this verse. Eternal life is to know God on the most intimate of levels. It begins once someone trusts Christ in a saving way. My intent in this post isn’t to expound on all of the reasons as to why that will be so satisfying (I hope initially they’re self-evident), but to simply strengthen my case that we were made for deep, meaningful, intimate connection…especially with the God of the universe.
The Human Condition Hinders Connection
Unfortunately, as the Christmas season rolls around many of us are reminded of just how difficult it can be to connect with others in the way I’ve been describing. Christmas can be a time that reminds us of just how disconnected, detached, and trite some of our relationships are. There’s a profound fracture in the world because of sin. Sin embeds itself deeply into the human soul and its ripple effects sever the connections we’re supposed to have, both to God and to others.
Christmas — God’s Connection to Us
Let’s revisit my vicarious claim to fame. Larry King was once on the other end of a question and asked if he could interview one person who would it be and what would he ask. His response? “Jesus Christ.” And King followed up with, "I would like to ask Him if He was indeed virgin-born. The answer to that question would define history for me” (I can’t find the original source material for this quote, but it is all over the Internet, i.e. Questioning Christ).
I doubt very much Larry King would describe this desire of his as one of longing to connect deeply with the God of the universe. But this is precisely what we are celebrating during Christmas. We are celebrating the Divine coming into deep, meaningful, intimate contact with the dust of the earth.
The Hebrew writer reminds us of the beauty of God’s connection to us,
Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need (4:14-16).
Jesus sympathizes with every human weakness and every temptation to sin. He understands the human condition because he lived in the broken state of hunger, thirst, weariness, and death. He felt the pain of the profound fracture of sin. And he didn’t just feel this because of a dysfunctional family. He felt this most profoundly because the wrath of God poured out on him in our place.
And he endured all of the above and so much more so that we might experience connection with our estranged heavenly Father. Meditate upon that with me this Christmas and hopefully intimacy with God will be more than just a mere desire, but also a felt reality.
31 Proverbs: Grace Day for Sunday 16 September
If you’ve been reading along in this little series, you’ve now read 29 of 31 chapters of Proverbs—well done friend! Today is a “Grace Day.”
Day Thirty: Vistas of Wisdom
I am very near the end of this little writing experiment called “31 Proverbs.” While I’m unsure how helpful it has been to how ever many have read it, I know that the process of sitting down six days each week to read, ponder, and then ponder some more by plunking on a keyboard has helped me grow in my understanding of wisdom.
This past Sunday we continued on our journey through the weighty, dark, somber, and serious writings of the Prophets of the Exile, focusing our study on Jeremiah’s epilogue to his large book, an extended treatment of his grief over Jerusalem and Judah, the five poems of Lamentations.
Day Thirty-One: A Mother’s Wisdom
Even Kings need to listen to their mothers, and Solomon is no exception. It is probable that Lemuel, meaning for God or devoted to God, is merely another moniker for Solomon. It may even be that it was a nickname of sorts, one of endearment that his mother used to call him in his younger, growing up years, and it stuck. And now as Solomon completes his book of Proverbs, his mother comes to mind. He looks back with Holy Spirit-inspired memory to recall worthy words of wisdom his mother had taught him, and were invaluable in the pursuit of a wise and good life. In particular, how to be a wise and good leader.
Day Fifteen: I Always Feel Like Somebody’s Watching Me
I always feel like somebody's watching me. And I have no privacy. Woh, I always feel like somebody's watching me. Tell me is it just a dream? So sang Rockwell in the dawning of my high school years back in 1984. All the cool kids were singing it at the time, and its the tune that sprang to mind when I read this similar sentiment this morning: Yahweh is watching everywhere, keeping his eye on both the evil and the good. (Proverbs 15:3, New Living Translation)
Day Twenty-Three: When You Feel Like Quitting, Remember Why You Started
Committing to any endeavor that takes time always carries with it the challenge of making it to the end. Refinishing that dresser. Repainting the downstairs. Reading all of War and Peace (or finishing any long-ish book for that matter). Completing the class you decided to take at the community college. Running a marathon. Taking up a new hobby. Learning a new sport. Trying to introduce a new habit into your life and routine. You often hit this pain-point, where you consider giving up. At such times, it can help to remind yourself why you started in the first place.