We all know what exhaustion feels like. When we’ve reached our maximum capacity and are pushed beyond it. As parents we are forced to go beyond it all too often.
Parenting is ripe with exhaustion at all stages. Even though I don’t have adult children, I have been assured that the sleepless nights don’t end once a child grows up and leaves the home.
Think for a moment about children.
Babies can be sweet, cuddly, and precious; they can also be back-arching demanding cryers.
Children are inquisitive, kind, and helpful, while also being whiny, brattish, and throwing tantrums.
You may be asking, What’s the cure to this parental exhaustion?
I’m glad you asked.
NOTHING. Suck it up and tough it out!
I would like to point out that in life, there are seasons that come and go that are exhausting. There’s no specific pill I can give you that will thwart the entrance to the halls of exhaustion.
However, I will show you the source of strength. The Psalms often help my weary heart as an exhausted parent. David cries out to God in Psalm 28, and this reminds us to do the same. God uses the Psalms to help our hearts know how to talk to Him. To honestly cry out when you are at your wits’ end.
Psalm 22 verse 7 says,
“Yahweh is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped.”
Turn to God right now, be helped. I pray God’s word would be a balm for your exhaustion.
Usually after I cry out to God, He brings to mind just how much a gift my children are to Lacey and I.
Children are a great way God works on our hearts. We can be critical, foolish, and self-centered. God uses children to draw us to himself, simply because we are not capable of raising our children with what they need without God present in our lives.
Pray for the next generation. Pray for your future children, children, or grandchildren. Most importantly, pray for their hearts.
Christina Fox reminds us,
“While asking for healthy bodies and good behavior certainly makes my life easier, it doesn’t address my children’s most serious and deadly ailment: their heart"
The most important prayer I can pray for them is that they would see their sin and need for you.
(Read more of Christina’s prayer here- https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/the-most-important-prayer-for-our-kids)
Depend on our Father, who never gets exhausted. Commune with Him. He will satisfy you.
How Quick We Forget
I pray that we would not feel entitled as if God owes us something more. Family, we already obtain infinitely more than we ever deserved from God.
Prayer is meant to be the conversation where your life and your God meet.
This past Sunday in a sermon at Calvary, I described what a praying life could look like through the lens of a definition from David Powlison: “Prayer is meant to be the conversation where your life and your God meet.”
Don’t Leave Your Family
My hope is that everyone who attends on a Sunday morning would grow to see this church as your home and the people of Calvary as your family. I also pray that we would all think twice before leaving this family when times inevitably get difficult.
On Sunday, the Calvary family had the opportunity to pray for the pastors and elders following the message. It was a sweet time that we were blessed to share in, as we together strive to Live On Mission. Here is the video in case you missed it!
Celebrating Black History Month
February is Black History Month, and it is likely that this month is needed in 2017 more than any year since. In a time of turmoil and division, it opens up an opportunity for racial divides to be bridged.
I believe song selection is one of the most important aspects of my role as your Worship Pastor. See, at Calvary, we have the opportunity to introduce around 12 songs per year - 17 songs max. That’s a new song every 3 weeks to a month. Introducing new music too often doesn’t serve our worship gatherings well and can even discourage participation. Not often enough and we could become too comfortable and no longer stirred by the lyrics. We want healthy rhythms of new songs that allow people to get familiar with the songs we sing so they can not only engage, but also firmly grasp the truths we’re singing about.